"Imagine no relationships"
Imagine if every person was actually an island.
One evening, walking along the ordinary roads of a typical colony in New Delhi, regressed enough to be craving chocolate and chips, TQ said to me, "You know that feeling? Of 'aloneness' even while in an experience of love?
Half way through this sentence, I smiled and looked at her with a glance that made her realise she needn't have asked me that question.
So throwing her arm around me with a little laugh, she said, "I knew you would understand exactly what I mean"
Ultimately, everyone is alone. You can love and you can give and you should have a bloody fantastic time doing that, but you shouldn't expect anything in return. Nada.
Is it pessimistic?
:-) Not at all ! Its liberating to arrive at this realisation. Because it does away with expectations. Expectations ruin you. They come with relationships, and relationships tend to be a bit screwed up anyway. Why? Because they give an illusion of non-aloneness.
You might say that it's all great talk, but that's not how relationships work.
Of course. Why do you think I lament over relationships? (Insert dramatic 1950's anguished Hindi film heroine pose here)
But it's the truth. All you can really derive joy out of is the way you feel. It's the only reliable thing.
Seekh Zaheen ke dil se jalna, kahe ko har shamma pe jalna?
Apni aag mein khud jal jaaye, tu aisa parwana ban ja
Yeah, its very Advaita Vedantic. Those guys definitely knew what they were talking about.
The 'truth' segment in the sidebar of this blog sings a song.
The lines that are absent are
Humsafar koi gar mile bhi kahin
Dono chalte rahe tanha tanha
Cheers to that comrades!
